I have had an idiot do similar things to me; I hope you’ve moved on, and life is better now, and that stupid guy hasn’t bothered you since.

Your perspective, which you should really reconsider if you haven’t, may hurt people and is probably provoked by the fact that you haven’t found a good person yet. Hope you had/have the best of luck.

I am now older and understand what you are experiencing with the hindsight of my own experience as a woman. I believe you actually are not interested or attracted to that guy or any of the guys who take an interest in you. You must own your own feelings and desires. When a guy is attractive to you, you’ll KNOW it. Don’t give in to pressure from other men. It will happen to you A LOT because you are a young woman. It’s how it is. You have endless choices. Shrug off their pressure, and don’t worry about hurting their feelings; it’s just part of the world of dating. Make it work for YOU.

I’m constantly feeling the same way when someone says they like me. I don’t know how to get over it. The feeling of being left heartbroken haunts me. After my first few relationships, I just gave up on love. Although I am still very young, I feel like I don’t want a partner at all. My parents accept anyone to be my partner, but it just scares me to think about how our relationship would work out. And, as a Pan and non-binary person, it seems nobody wants to be with me when I tell them.

It’s sad to hear that. I’m a woman, but it looks like we’re suffering on different parallels. You want a relationship with someone, but you have a hard time finding and pursuing someone. I want to remain single and alone because of philophobia, but I suffer from others coming after me.

That’s very sad; I, too, had a long drama of toxic love. I hope you’re doing better. Are you able to love now?

I’m 22 right now, and yet I still suffer from the same problem as you. It’s such a huge relief to know that there’s someone like you out there because I feel so isolated with this issue. I feel like no one else will truly understand this fear like we do. Even when I complain about guys showing interest in me to my family, they only laugh and tell me how “flattering” I should feel. The horror is real. Many of us are taught how to deal with people who don’t like us, but not many of us are taught how to deal with people who like us. I’ve even had times where I felt like my fear of love was invalid and stupid because why would anyone be afraid of being liked?

As a woman, I also agree that females may overlook a man’s strength and great qualities. Even if I was a guy, I wouldn’t know how to attract women, especially if I didn’t reach their physical standards. I know for sure these days that women are tired of seeing men trying too hard to get attention on the internet. So being unapologetically yourself will make you stand out in this day and age. Even if it doesn’t attract all women, it’s going to catch the attention of the special woman in your life.