Comments on: Fear of Intimacy Phobia – Aphenphosmphobia https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/ The Ultimate List of Phobias and Fears Fri, 06 Mar 2026 14:07:54 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Mike https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/142238 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-142238 In reply to Mina.

I agree, but my brother would not. He has Aphenphosmphobia.

]]> By: Mike https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/142237 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-142237 My brother does not love anyone or have a relationship. All he cares about is himself.

]]> By: Mina https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/142122 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-142122 In reply to john jackson.

Love is Love. Be with the one you want to be with.

]]> By: DANNY https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/130585 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-130585 I don’t really have a romantic relationship, I had a few crushes in high school, but they were unrequited. I was kind of sad about it, but also really relieved.

I have a lot of people in my family who have dated, and their relationships always end up in disaster. It was always bad, and they would always tell me how their partners would be controlling or how they would fight and yell at each other.

Every time I think about having a close relationship, I think it would be nice, but I would probably mess it up in some way because of all my problems, and it would be too much to handle. Or maybe the person would be too controlling and tell me what to do or make me do things I don’t want to do, and I would hate that. And every time I think about that possibility, I stop wanting to have relationships altogether.

I can’t trust my therapist, my friends, or my family. I try to be nice to them and listen to their problems, but I can’t talk about mine, and if they are too pushy, I get aggressive and storm off. Sometimes even when someone wants to touch me, just thinking about how they would react if I told them about my problems makes my stomach turn, and I try to get away, or I tell them not to touch me. Because I know for certain that if they really knew me, they would feel disgusted or uncomfortable by me, or they would scream at me.

Still, sometimes I fantasize about opening up to someone about everything and them telling me it’s ok, that they love me, and that it’s safe. But that’s just a dream. And even though I try my hardest to think love is unconditional, it is not. Probably it is not.

]]> By: Jeffrey Curl https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/130145 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-130145 Mine is long, but I will cut it up the best I can: when I was a kid, I saw female students like all the time. But then there was one day in grade school that changed everything. My ears bled, and I had to be taken to the hospital. That’s not the worst part. I had to undress not in front of one girl but TWO girls. My mom and a nurse. I wasn’t wearing underwear that day, and they saw practically everything. So, we got in the room, and no one told me this, but I was on the table, lying on my back. Suddenly I hear “breathe this.” I was like NO. But then I was gassed. Later in life, I felt a disconnection from life and friends. Because A, literally no friends (except a few guys, then they left), and B, I’ve never felt happy during my time in school, and I tried so hard to find happiness and couldn’t find any. Because C, I always avoided intimacy. I would talk to someone about my environment rather than my feelings. So, I’m 25 now, and I still have trouble with intimacy. I’ve opened a little (which is like on FB mostly), but I always try to hide my feelings, especially in person. Younger girls, IDK, they seem so scary but beautiful all the same. But most of my life, I tend to talk to adult women more (for a bunch of obvious reasons, and none of them have anything to do with sex because I never want it) because I want to open up more, but it’s so hard! I just wish I had never faced this issue. Taking Estrogen injections might help, but I’m going to try to sloth my way forward to get the help I need. I need a lot of happiness in my life. I never liked being a guy, ever.

Please leave your comments down below if you can. I know my typing can be a little off at times because I’ve had this issue for YEARS, and it just isn’t going away.

]]> By: Naomi https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/92633 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-92633 Not sure how it’s not classed as a serious condition with the symptoms listed? Anyone who has panic attacks knows it’s serious. Unless only physically debilitating illnesses are classed as serious?

]]> By: Sally https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/88925 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-88925 Hi, I ™m 20 years old and I ™m a female. From the time I was 4 up until I turned 18 I was mentally, emotionally and physically abused by my mother who has narcissistic personality disorder and bipolar. Now anytime I get into a relationship I can touch and kiss and hug at first but as it goes on I get less and less comfortable with being touched to the point where I push my partner away because it makes me so uncomfortable and anxious, which leaves him thinking there ™s something wrong with him but I know it ™s just me. I also Nitpick and try to control him, I know I ™m doing it but I just can ™t stop myself. I get irritated whenever he wants to touch me. I feel like I ™m being smothered and can ™t breath. I get the strongest feeling of being uncomfortable. Also I deal with a fear of commitment again feeling like I ™m being swallowed up and can ™t breathe when I think about it. After all this I feel guilty and broken like I ™ll never be right or be able to be close to someone without feeling anxious. I want to be able to be close but every time I try I almost have a panic attack.

]]> By: john jackson https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/88315 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-88315 My girlfriend was abused very badly sexually by her ex-husband for years, he belong to the mob. He said to her he would kill the kids if she did not play along with his sick game and that he would kill her sister and then herself. She became a drug- and an alcoholic. She went to rehab and is out. She owes a lot of people a lot of money big time and is paying them back. It has been 7 years and i am trying to hang with her but i hardly see her because of work schedules and her phobias. I love her very much but it is getting very very hard on me. Please give me some advice. Thank you, John.

]]> By: Anoymous https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/83813 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-83813 In reply to Krystal.

I struggle with this too, I was molested once aged 11 and managed to run away, I ran immediately to my father who told me I was lying and never believed me until I had a nervous breakdown a decade ago, and even then he couldn’t even remember it. Now whenever I feel I’m getting close to someone I run away from it or shut down mentally, this has undoubtably unintentionally hurt others. I’m 36 now and the last time I was intimate with someone I was 19. I’ve never had sex and frankly the thought of it terrifies me now. I recently tried engaging in a romantic relationship but only got so far before I shut down again and now whenever I see that person I can barely even look at her. It’s pathetic and it’s gone on for so long now I don’t know what to do about it. I feel stupid, useless angry and impotent. I’ve recently started having anxiety attacks too, it’s killing me and I don’t trust anyone to talk to about it.

]]> By: Mel Neo https://www.globalfears.com/fear-of-intimacy-phobia-aphenphosmphobia/#comments/80428 http://www.globalfears.com/?p=151#comment-80428 Actually, fear of intimacy can be lead to one night stands and nymphomania where people throw each other away like garbage, and fear of intimacy isn’t always about fear of being touched. I think it’s important not to throw fear of intimacy and philophobia in with Aphenphosmphobia that much.

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