Comments on: Fear of Change Phobia – Metathesiophobia

By: Chloe

Chloe

In reply to Em. That sucks, hope you feel better. Wishing you only good luck, meaningful random person.

By: Abbie

Abbie

I don’t know if this is metathesiophobia, but anytime I grow a fascination for something or someone and I start to change my interests, it’s terrifying. I’m constantly asking myself not to forget them, to always go back to that song that I loved or that game that I enjoyed playing. I think I’m just terrified to change my interests, to change my personality. I feel like if I do, everyone will hate me because I’m not just as I was before. I mean, currently I’m going into a new phase where I’m learning to like another music artist. I’m just so scared to leave the other one behind though, especially because everyone knows how much I love that artist’s music and that I have all of their merch. I don’t know what to do because I like the new artist and I like the old one too. I feel like if I love the new one too much, I’ll leave the old one behind. Am I crazy or am I the only one saying it?

By: Em

If I ™m being honest, I ™m so scared right now. I ™m a teenager, and I have a fear of change. I mean, talk about setting myself up for failure. I ™ve had this fear ever since I was a kid. I underwent traumatic, huge changes that altered my thinking as a young child. Right now, I ™m stuck going through changes again. I ™m in my later teen years and have a person I ™m dating. The change in our relationship and the fact that things are different has been enough to send me into a full shutdown, even though I do have romantic feelings for them and want to date them. I wish I could overcome this, but I don ™t know how. I find myself breaking off relationships the second the dynamic changes, but I don ™t want to do that. I ™m scared, and quite frankly, I ™m in my college application and decision stage in life, and it ™s so overwhelming already. Sorry if this was poorly written. I ™m hyperventilating, so it ™s hard to breathe and think right now.

By: Nat

Nat

I’ve noticed a recent change in my behavior after moving from a town that was all I had known. I kept getting freaked out and stressed over slight changes, whether between routines, activities, or even friends. I always cried and panicked at the thought of my friends not wanting to do what we had always done to enjoy ourselves. It’s actually happening right now, and I feel terrified. I guess this is what I have, and I hate it so much. I wish I could adjust like other people, but I keep feeling depressed and trapped. I fear that I will never change. I’m fourteen years old.

By: Meghan Young

Meghan Young

In reply to Katt Circle. How are you doing one year later?

By: Katt Circle

Katt Circle

I go by Katt and recently left an 8-year relationship. I’ve been ok the last three days, then today it’s like everything really “hit,” and I’m panicked. I could use any and all the advice you can give.

By: Nicholas Greenwood

Nicholas Greenwood

In reply to Daz. I am 61. I suffer from many mental health problems, including OCD or, more precisely, Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder. I cannot tolerate any form of change. I have to stick to my same daily routine, and if that is altered in any way, I get the most terrible anxiety and intrusive/repetitive thoughts. Nothing has ever helped - medication nor other therapies. I just have to live with it. It helps that I am a Buddhist and know that all life is suffering.

By: Colleen Thompson

Colleen Thompson

In reply to Christian. Christian, change is scary. It's ok not to like change. We all fear it to a certain degree, although some people try to hide their fears. They think it makes them look weak. We all fear things like looking weak or bad in front of others. We fear losing control. Change is just part of life. This world keeps revolving and evolving, even if we don't like it. The best thing is to talk to a teacher, pastor, or another adult you feel safe and comfortable talking to about this. Most schools have counselors. Everything is confidential. Just know that you are not alone. A lot of kids try to hide their fears. You have that part beat. You acknowledge it, even if you do not want everyone to know about it. Hiding emotions leads to depression and anxiety and allows things to build up in our minds. The teen years are a rough time for everyone to go through. You just need to find someone older and wiser to discuss things with. Best of luck to you, and hang in there. Pretty soon, you'll be advising some younger kid!

By: Thomas

Thomas

In reply to Annika. I understand this. I used to have friends that I couldn't see myself without, and now we rarely talk. This happens, and the guilt is hard to deal with. The best thing I've done is to try talking to that friend again every now and then, and talk to them more and more as time goes on until you rebuild that friendship.

By: Christian

Christian

Hi, I’m a teenager and I think I have the fear of change. I’m terrified by things changing or me losing control over things, and every time I think about my life changing in any way or if anything changes about someone I love, I’ll cry for hours or even days. The change can be good or bad, I’ll still cry. It often throws me into a depression which I’ve honestly had enough of. I’d like to stop this fear cause it’s all pain.